first of all...i think it's not a matter to fall in love or not? U're not planning to celibate yourself, do u?

It's also not very much about what your past relationship anymore. like you said, you've told urself to move on and stuffs. Which is good, but then, why go back there in the first place when you've decided sometime ago you dont want to be there? Right?
I'm sure you need to love and i'm sure somehow somewhere you will fall in love again. For the right person. But that doesnt mean it's now and neither can i tell you when but I'm sure you will. Perhaps this is not the right time. Like you said, you want to build your social status first...make friends...not lovers...

you cannot always control what you feel, but you can always control what you do about your feelings, what actions you want to take about those feelings. It might come back and creep u again, but you can always reject such negative thoughts about it. I dont really know what happened previously and this is all i can say. Hope this helps a lil. Just my penny worth.

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hey yew fong ~ thankx man ~ i was really REALLY hurt last time ~ maybe u din know , but gracie knows ..i think :p i shut myself for too long ald ~ somehow now , my heart start to open up again ~ but i dunno if i WANT to open it or not ~ coz i'm not sure of the other person ~ i hate rejections and i know , if i open my heart and hope too much , the bigger my disapointment will be ...therefore , i'll juz let things be as it is now ~ thankx for ur advise dude ~ ^.^

my pleasure derek...but also bear in mind Love is about taking risk as well..u cant fully guarantee anything..but all we can do is to be careful and ask the Lord to guide us.....:)

Never rush into things..cos true love waits and it's worth waiting for..:)

take care now..:)

well, first I do not know you. Im sorry. But nice meeting u btw, ermm, I believe in destiny. Whatever you do, follow your heart :) Good things come when you least expect it;

Hi there, it is a good feeling to be loved, being loved or in love. Welcome to life!! Rejections are always there...we rejected God's sacrificial love for us too. As human, we always put our loved one above all things and God too. Have you ever quieten yourself and examine whether God is in your heart right now?

"Rejection".....if you know me well enough, I face it too! Give your love to all but your heart to the only RIGHT person. Cheers Derek put your focus to better things! By the way, you don't have to pressure yourself to make any choices. Get connected with good friends, Gerald for a start...

Five years down the road...we will sit and laugh of old times. Take care!!

Thankz cheryl ~ i was really confused then ~ coz i found another gal i liked ~ but apparently she is also a vietnamese ~ i really hated vietnamese because of my past ~ so tat's why i was confused ~ i was wonderin if i was destined to fall in love with vietnamese galz ~ but in the end , now ...i dun care ~ i'll juz let it flow itself ~ i dun wan to persue it nor reject it ~ ^^